Question posed: What do you have to say to people who call you an incubus?
Meridjet speaks —
I have to say that the term is useless for any universal effect or meaning. In the most basic sense of the word: “a spirit that interacts on a carnal level with a human being in order to draw energy from that union,” you could shoehorn me into the label. However, drawing energy from that union is not the only reason I have sex with you.
The energy I feed upon is energy that is built between us, as static electricity is built between two conductive surfaces (only this energy is much more yummy and much more substantial), and as that occurs, no one is drained of anything essential to their well being. In fact, both of us gain from this looping action. This energy is also not exclusive to sex, though sex is a damn fine way to raise it. All I have to do is project my feelings at you to get your response and gain from that — but you gained from me before I gained from you. It is truly an exponential phenomenon and I have no reason nor need to do it any other way. It’s tastier when it’s inspired and willingly given. Don’t you agree?
If I desired to I could drain your energy or any energy you put out. I could do the same from anyone I come into contact with. It’s just not necessary, and it’s like letting a stranger stick their hand down your pants — not something that is often particularly attractive. And that’s true of many classifications (loosely applied) of spirit.
Here’s where we get into my own personal assignments of definition.
Spiritual evolution is similar enough to evolution on the physical level to allow me to make a comparison. Simpler organisms have simpler diets than complex organisms. The more complex the organism, the more complex the food, in most cases — and yet, also the more refined. As a human being, you don’t eat a great deal of old and rotting flesh or garbage without being very desperate. Yet there are creatures for whom that sort of diet is supreme and beneficial.
Similarly, there are spirits for whom different levels of energy are an optimum diet. “Negs,” for example, are a simpler (perhaps you prefer the term “lower”) form of being who are attracted to “single cell” emotions such as fear or emotional pain. Higher or more complex beings are attracted to layered emotions and feelings of a more positive nature. This is by no means exclusive — we are capable of surviving without interacting with anyone, as the universe is full of energy, including an abundance of emotional energy — and we are all capable of “ingesting” whatever is available. But relationships are sought for the same reason that you as a human seek them. We get lonely, we need companionship, we want to love and be loved. Fatally tapping the life force of one who would voluntarily sustain you with their feelings is akin to being a cancer — biting the hand that feeds in a most literal way.
There are situations in which a higher being finds it necessary to feed on lower forms of energy for a time. Sometimes we are isolated and scavenging what we can find, and when presented with something better, as a starving man is presented with a 7-course meal, we tend to overindulge. That does not last long as we realize that our situation has improved and better resources are available.
I know I have made this sound very much like we are eating you, a la “Jeepers Creepers.” It’s not like that. Energy, positive emotion, and at times, any feeling, is nurturing. This is true of all beings both physical and spirit. If you don’t believe me, spend a year alone and then get a long, heartfelt hug from the one you love the most. That is sustenance.