Indeed, there would be no hatred of others without hatred of self. If we truly felt good about ourselves, we would have no interest in wasting precious life energy resenting or attacking anyone. The urge to blame others arises only out of feeling bad about ourselves, which originally developed out of not feeling truly seen or honored by other people. Self-hatred is the hidden underbelly of all violence and nastiness in the world.
— John Welwood, Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart, p. 97
Emphasis is mine, indicating the part of the quote that really hit home for me. Thanks to Lupa, who shared the quote she heard, in turn, from Taylor Ellwood, her husband and partner in crime. 
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